You know the feeling when everything’s just…working.
Not perfect. Not problem-free. But you’re moving well. Thinking clearly.
The energy you’re putting into things matches what you’re getting back. Work feels purposeful. Time with the people you love feels, well, loving. Not like a gap between tasks.
That’s what I’d call being in sync with yourself. Feeling connected.
I’ve felt it.
And I’ve drifted from it.
Over the past few weeks there’s been a lot on.
Some of it tricky. Grief, uncertainty or challenge for me, or close friends and family. The kind of stuff that doesn’t sit neatly in a to-do list but takes up energy and headspace.
Some of it genuinely brilliant. A 50th birthday, a kids’ football tournament that ran across two days, school exams going well, bank holiday fun with friends. All of it welcome.
But somewhere in the middle of it, I stopped taking the stillness when it was available. And that’s on me. The opportunity was there. I just filled it with something else.
And now I can feel it. Not a crisis. Nothing dramatic. More like a tipping. A subtle shift in the quality of my attention.
My own early warning system, if I’m honest enough to listen.
I’ve learned to take that seriously.
Not because I’m worried about where it leads if I don’t. But because of what’s coming up that I want to be fully present for.
Ciara’s birthday (always a favourite as it makes me feel younger!). Morocco. New work I’m genuinely excited to build. Things I’ve designed and want to deliver well. People I want to show up well for.
These aren’t burdens. They’re the good stuff. And I want to arrive at all of them in sync.
So this week I’m practising what I preach.
Fewer tasks. Better focus. The right exercise, not the maximum amount. Less picking up the phone. More stillness, taken when it’s offered.
I used this frame with two partners I’ve been working with this week. As I’ve mentioned before, that’s such a gift because I can spot my own actions or patterns in theirs.
Both carrying significant new responsibilities, both with young kids, both with a lot on outside of work too. We talked about reframing the time with their kids not as a break from work, but as something that actively refuels it.
And vice versa. Nothing is purely draining if you frame it right.
That’s the work. Tuning in early enough to do something about it.
What does in sync feel like for you? And when did you last feel it?